All right, I don’t expect to win any popularity contests with my winning personality and charm. I’m pretty open and blunt and those things don’t make friends and influence people. I’m pretty cynical and jaded, too, and those things don’t make for someone others want to cuddle up with. I understand that, and in recent years I’ve mellowed as much as I can. Time will mellow me further, I’m sure, and like a good wine, I might continue to get better. (Or just turn to vinegar. We’ll see.)
At the same time, I don’t expect someone who’s never had any conflict with me, never met me, never had any communication with me of any kind, in any way, in any circumstance, to have a problem with me.
Does that seem unusual? Is that unreasonable? I expect to have problems with people who know me. The better they know me, the larger a problem they’re likely to have with me. I know that, I accept that. If we do happen to be friends, it may just be a matter of time before I tick you off or offend you or insult you. Okay, I’m aware of that. But for someone to take a distaste for me and display it electronically without ever talking to me before having an issue with me?
Well, I’ll leave it at “I’m baffled.” And I know it’s me, because the same person doesn’t seem to have a problem with my wife.
It’s worse than what I’m painting here too, because this person is respected around the Internet within the publishing industry. It’s a literary agent, actually. And that scares the holy crap out of me. I’ve managed to blacklist myself with someone in the industry already and I haven’t even finished my first manuscript yet.
I’m doing my best not to panic, but I can’t figure out what I’ve done to make this person angry, especially in this arena of electronic communication. Did something spam from out of my account I wasn’t aware of? Did I inadvertently broadcast something negative? Did I accidentally offend with something I’ve said?
Oh, it all harkens back to Linda’s “be careful what you say on the Internet!” post. I’m sure I didn’t do anything directly to that person, and I’ve never, to my knowledge, mentioned this person by name in any electronic way. Maybe I complained about the agent/gatekeeper process one too many times. Maybe they think it’s offensive that I feel the way I do about them. Whatever the case I can’t find out because somewhere, somehow, this person has banished me electronically. I only found out by trying to connect with them. That’s it. I had no idea until I tried. Others can, and one Facebook friend suggested they were being “pre-emptive”. Gracious, really? What the heck?!
Oh well. Too late now. I wonder if I should reach out find out what’s wrong? On the other end of that, however – I’m blocked, so I can’t.
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